Seriously... this is my last one .... really..... it is....

ok .... just one more link to someone elses blog.......
(I couldnt help it. It was too funny!)

No. Really.
Its my last one.
No. I'm not addicted to reading blogs.
Really.....
I'm not.
This is my last one.
My last fix and I'm quitting.

.........

Happenings..

Gah! So much things to do.
Keep thinking... change is good, change is good.....

Its funny when I have lots of things to do with work and all, that this is the time my mind tends to like to wander alot.........

And then my mind wanders here... to my singledom....

So update on Michael. My car lease finished yesterday.
But I told him I was returning my car last Saturday.
Tuesday he called my cell :
"Hey, Just thought I would give you a call to see what decision you made on your car and if you need any help with that or anything. I'm working from this time to that time today, so give me a call"
Wednesday he called again but did not leave a message. Ah Call display.
Hummmm.
I thought: "Sheesh these persistant sales ppl! "
I could have just left it at that and never called back. He knows I will never set foot in his Sleaze-infested dealership. Just leave it alone dude!
But he sounded cute, and my mind wanders when I have things to do, I needed a break so, I called him back.

"Hey how are ya doing?!"
"I'm pretty good, just returning your call, how are ya?"
"Oh I'm just sitting here staring at the walls, and staring at all the cars here, we got a whole shipment in of the Civics"
"Oh thats nice."
"Ya and none of them are mine... sigh. They are all sold"
"Show off"
"Ha ha Ha , no no I dont mean it like that"
"Sure sure"
- more small talk
"So what have you decided about your car?"
"Well, I wanted to call to tell you I actually got the deal I asked for, actually lower!"
"What?You did!? Thats great...where..."
"But I decided to buy out the car I have now"
"Oh you didnt do that! You let the guy give you the price you wanted but you knew you were going to buy it instead?! Oh you!" He says laughing
" Yes just wanted to see how low they can actually price it for a lease -I'm pretty proud of myself"
"Well thats good, you still have a pretty good car with the amount of clicks you have on it"
"Ya, so I just wanted to tell you."
"OH hey now that you own your car, you may need parts, so if you ever do, you can always give me a call"
"Like I would want to go to your dealership again, haha you are too funny"
"Well, you know, you can always call anyways for advice or help or anything."
"You know, if you were at any other dealership I would go there, no problem, thats all you have to do you know"
"I know, I know but I live so close to here"
"Ok then, your loss !"
"Hummmm, ya know, maybe I would actually really concider it, if you would follow me to where I move"
"Oh reeeeaaly now ?"
"Yes really."
"so when are you moving?"
"Ya, actually.." he says in a hushed voice,
"we are not really allowed to ask customers out... however, since..... you are not coming to this dealership ever, you are technically NOT a customer......."
"Thats right,I am not a customer"
" soooooo.... I was just wondering....... if you would like to go out with me sometime??"
So we have a date this weekend!


Whoooo HOOOOO!!! .......






Not!
Ahem, ya so,
as I said, my mind wanders. BUT it could have happened that way! It really could have! For now it just happened in my mind.
After he told me that he lives close to his work, we continued the small talk and he said to call him if ever I need help with my car. The end!

Back to my boring life and work stess hehe.

Car Salesmen

Humm ya wonder where they get the sleazy image dont ya?
ha ha.
Anyone who has been jipped by one knows.

Its an awful feeling of learning that someone has lied to you to get what they want, earned your trust and ripped the carpet out from under you.
These type of guys (or even gals) are people we know not to trust.

Anyhow. My lease is up for my car. Gota get a new one. I had a horrible horrible experience leasing my first car. At the time I even spoke to the owner at length - just going around in circles. His salesman just jipped me and he knew it but he said there is nothing he can do about it. I even went so far as to research some legal blurb on exactly why, what his salesman, thus his dealership did wrong, I think I had a case there.... I even consulted a lawyer, who agreed with me, but me, being the tiny person I am and all the legal crap I would have to face, the lawyer said that in the end it is not worth the heart ache and head ache, bite the bullet and pay the unnecessary cash.

So .... I get a phone call today. Some guy. Calm, kind, voice. Said his name was Michael.
But he is a rep from the dealership...reminding me that my lease is up soon and asking me what I am planning to do. I explain that I dont want to pay more than I am paying for now. And that I am looking at other cars all together, and that even if I decided to go with the same type of car I most definately will not be going back to that dealership. Im not stupid enough to be convinced anymore by any salesman let alone dare to concider his dealership.....

.... thing is ..... the dude actually seemed very nice.....( I see your eyes rolling)..... but really..... he actually seemed like he wanted to help..... I know he is just the messenger and he was not even working at that place when I got my car.....but wow - what a difference customer service makes.
I low-balled him a quote. Knowing full well I have absolutely no intentions of going back there. Some stupid amount so incredibly low so much so that they would be actually losing money off of me (I did my research better this time). He asked for a compromise. I refused. (I dont have anything to lose anyways - dont need that car that badly - just any good safe car is good for me). I even said that even if by some miracle of the miracle they actually approve my quote - I dont think I would take it and if I did, I dont think I can sleep well at night knowing that I am actually giving money to that A-hole of an owner again! (did not actually say A-hole) He still said he will try. I asked why are you trying? You wont lose anything by losing one customer. He still said he wants to try. I told him he is wasting his time. He said what do you want to happen? I said I want you to approve that quote I gave, give it to me , and I will just go to another dealership and show it to them to make a deal. He said fine, he will still try. So I said , so you go through all this effort and what do I do with what you give me? Meaning what he is "trying " to do for me is actually in vain! He hinted under his breath that I should do what I just said, go to any dealership with that approved quote (if it is approved) and use it to make a deal, all he wants is for me to feel that not all people are like the ones I dealt with in his company.

HUmmm, Mr Car salesman.......you sneaky devil you.... you actually sounded sincere, you actually made me feel like you were trying to help me and make amends for your disgusting, slime filled, horrifying, bile tasting, fecal minded company.....

Good Job dude!.........and you even sounded cute!

Its a wonder at the extent of their manipulation tactics and skills they have to persuade people....he even said he used to live in my area and he is even the same nationality as me... blah blah blah and all that "relating" crap.

If I dont get a car from him I wonder if I can get a date....... he actually seemed that nice!!!! Broke through my ice a tiny bit and its pretty thick I tell ya, no one really does that!

But on second thought.... the thought of dating a car sales man really makes me hurl! I dont trust too easily as it is, so can you imagine the disabling trust issues I would end up with ?! Yikes!

New Years resolutions?

I was never one to make New Years resolutions.
Maybe because half the time I forgot what they were half way through the year anyways.
Then when I finally remembered them it only caused me more grief to realize how much I DID NOT accomplish.
I tend to make lists (grrr @ my memory)
Thing is .... I make "to do lists" and then relax in the fact that I wrote them down...

Then I lose the lists.
At this very moment I think I have about half a dozen lists scattered somewhere in my room or work office.

Yes - its not good.

I start with ideals and then it fizzles out.
Its different when it comes to my work resolutions: They are clear cut : I want to do A, B and C - simple.
But when it is some sorta mumbo jumbo self reflective improvement ... that is not so straight forward ,not so tangible and measurable. Those are the ones that tend to fizzle.

Well ......
I am going....
to.....um...
try. Yes try again ( sheesh this is even in writing - uh oh)

ACtually I think I would feel better if I called them my

NEW YEAR'S NON-RESOLUTIONS

(whatever that may mean or how ever one takes it. I duno)

2 tiny itty bitty teeny weeeny things :

1) Never Turn down a social event (I got this from here - thanks DD!) This is going to be hard since I am not the typical uber socialite
2) And take more responsiblity for any situation I am in. Not blaming others. (I got this from here - crazy post but true) Though technically I dont remember complaining about how some crappy man constantly treated me horribly - dont think I could stand for that in a relationship (though a Boss situation is different - I digress) But I guess this can be applied to any situation - Im going to try not to blame T.O for having no good men- well at least until I meet them all (okay that sounds skanky but you know what I mean)

I think the thing that discourages me most about resolutions is that I'm pretty hard on myself for failing in them that I just cannot stand the disappointment in myself. That should not be so! There is that cliche : if you fail, try try again... so that is why they are NON resolutions - Im going to try to be aware of this in everything I do and try to impliment them but I am not going to beat my self silly with a bat (thanks R!) if I fail throughout the year - just so long as I keep trying.

is that a cop-out? I duno. maybe but here I go......

Honestly. I should really stop....

Posting other ppls articles !

I guess Im just being lazy.

However I found this....Its interesting.

Since I dont think I am any of the points listed in this article I guess I have just deduced that I am ready to .............. date

D'UH!

I knew that already - where are they though?!

Sometimes I feel it is like......

Shopping in Winners.
They avertize they have all these wonderful clothes at afforable prices....when you are not in the mood to get more trendy clothes and just wish to find a nice top at a great price....

BUT when you get there and its a Mish-Mash of clothes you have to sort through, that outfit you see on the commercials or the outfit your friend got is no where to be seen. Heck, even one Winners store carries different items than another Winners store down the street. And the so called "affordable prices" are only because they jack up the "origional price" on the tag and say "their price" is much more cheaper - when really its comparable to anything else out there... I digress....

So here is the situation.

You are shopping in your average Winners store - (cause for some reason you have alot of time to shift through everything).... down this aisle, down that aisle, each item is different from the one beside it...sometimes you find a work-out top you see and then you look at the price ...pssssh! You think: I can get this at the same price from any NIke store anyways gez! - no deal there ... so you move on.... not having much success....you carry a few items back to the change room only to have the jeans too tight or too baggy, the top too tight or too low cut:p or just simply looks awful on you...maybe you may end up getting a top that you think is "eeenngh its ok - wasnt what I was looking for but its nice"

BUT its when you see an item the other gal is wearing in the change room and you think "OMG I been here all this time, where she get that, it looks so good?!"
Or its when you are trying on the same item of clothing as that other gal and it looks sooo great on her ...erm ... and not you.
Or its when you are at the cash and you see the lady ahead of you with these nice pair of shoes that you never noticed.

I dont think I have ever gotten an item in that store that I thought was a great deal. (I think it has happened in other stores but thats besides my point)If I go in that store thinking : hummm I want a top that has A B and C features I may find one that has A or AB but not C etc....My point is that it seems that other people find great deals except for me. I start to think - wrong place at the wrong time? Do I just have a picky eye? or Maybe blind eye?? Do I have to keep shifting through all that junk more? Do I have to settle with just A or C and not B etc? Where do I go? Am I in the wrong store altogether? Its like that feeling you get when everyone around you is finding this great deal or that deal and it suits them perfectly-nifty-dandy-fine yet you are waiting for your turn to find that great deal that has everything you are looking for and fits you like it was made for you, and you are discouraged and lost and you feel like you will be the only one left in that store leaving empty handed.........

Um ya. Other than this passing thought, believe it or not, I actually had a great lazy Sunday :)

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On MSN's page today I found this:

Setting up your New Year in love
By Barrie Dolnick

Level Three: A Magical Blueprint for Romance
If you’re game for a big and powerful love connection, don’t be shy. Follow these directions for a love ritual, and you will certainly see romance in the coming year. Believe in it—thousands of single people who’ve read my books and attended my seminars have found success with it!

This process must be done after sunset and is best done between December 20 and January 13th.

1)Light a candle and sit comfortably in candlelight.
2)Make of list of the qualities in a relationship you desire. Here’s an example, but use your own words. Use the present tense. Claim your power to create this love in your life.

"I create love in 2006 with someone who is screamingly funny, tender, caring, honest and compassionate. I create love with someone who loves animals, appreciates and respects my vegetarian diet. I create love with someone who complements my personality and who lovingly challenges me to be a better person. I create love with someone who loves music, adventure and joins me in volunteer work.
I have the power to create love with the perfect person for me. "
3)Read your list out loud. And no, it will not work if you just read it silently. The power of your word is a strong force and this will help pull your wishes into reality.
4)When you’re done reading your lists, release this to the universe by saying, “So Be It and So It Is.”
5)Blow your candle out.
Hang onto your list. In the next twelve months, you’ll be able to see how your wishes were granted.

The bottom line ......$$$

Ah Yes! So I thought!
Just to re-inforce things once again.....
MOST if not all of these "singles events" or "singles services" are only after one thing ..... matching you up and helping you find the right one??? ppppssssshhh! NAW ! Thats way to complicated.... its about the almighty $$ as I mentioned in my last post.

Just to update, I tried to post a comment on the singles site that hosted the Terrible New Years Party event that my gfs and I went to... I read all the posts from Jan 1 , saying oh how wonderful and amazing this event was blah blah blah and more bull bull bull (that convinced us to go in the first place).....
And only one post read:
I've read the emails from last night's attendees and wonder if you people were at the same event I was. I was very disappointed in the disorganization, long line-ups for everything, lack of New Year's build-up and hosting. I have been to many New Year's parties and this was by far the worst. Even though I met some very nice people, I was very disappointed in the event organization and don't feel it was worth the money paid.

Lucky gal. She at least had her message posted!!!!
And of course she got tones of responses (probably from employees of the site) saying "oh no it was really great I had a wonderful time, the lines are expected and events that hold 600 ppl" 600? No, more like 360. But thats no excuse for POOR ORGANIZATION!

I actually went to 2 other events from this site with my friends. One was the Indoor Golfing. Again that was poorly organized! Our french instructor did not teach but rather just said "you do like dis" and moved our hands and feet to where they needed to be explaining nothing; even one gal yelled at the instructor "dont you ever touch me again!" My friend and I actually learned more and paid less going to our own golf lesson at another golf place. The next event I convinced another friend to go to was Adventure racing. They told us that you dont have to be experienced and it is very casual, and it will be fun so bring your runners. Well we sat in a room for 3 hours as the instructors talked to us about their die-hard-hard-core-adventure-racing endeavours and how to prepare for one - we did not meet other people - we did not interact with anyone else in the class - we just sat listening to a 3 hour lecture.
I could go on with the details but I wont. All this to say I want to WARN OTHER PEOPLE ABOUT SITES LIKE THIS who PREY on singles and infact I want to warn anyone that thinks that http://www.meetmarketadventures.com is a great place to meet people - because its not!!!!!!! They definately decieve their customers - I suggest you check out the site and see how exciting everygthing looks like, maybe they should be called scam-marketors.com?

They would not let me post my rather tame (believe it or not) comment on their site like the lucky gal above got to. All I did was agree with the gal above and state that I noticed the disorganization in the other 2 events that I attended.
........So I am voicing my opinion HERE on MY SITE.

Yes I have learned my lesson. I guess I needed to be suckered into it 3 times (hehe) before I learned.
So to my poor friends out there who I convinced to go.... you better smack me upside the head if I try to convince you to go to any of their events again ;) ... (I do realize this is in writing too hehe)

New Years! to be or not to be ... single?!

Ah my friends and I never learn hehe.
We went to a singles party last night for New Years.
We thought : hey it should be better than the bars or night clubs with the smoochie couples, and at least we will be surrounded by people just like us - single.

RIIIIIght!
Honestly, I am coming to believe that there are alot of sick ppl out there that prey on singles. They hold events or create dating sites, claiming to have the skill to match you perfectly to your significant other. I realize now that they are just as lost as the average single person in finding the right one...... but in their case - they make $$$ off of us. Gasp! How insensitve! Playing with ppls emotions like that!
When it comes down to it, its up to the single person themselves to find their significant other... in todays society we are too busy to do this and would rather have some other kind of element do the work for us, and we pay them to do this. GAH! I realize I got suckered into this too!

Maybe the reason there are so many singles out there is that we isolate ourselves in todays society. Heck, we dont even talk to our next door neighbours! And that is Normal! Given that the population is growing, there are still so many lonely people out there. I think in my case I am single because I dont get much exposure.... no no - Im not about to flash anyone out there.... but exposure to other people in general, not only singles but people who are not single who may know someone that is..... etc etc. I have all the excuses : too busy at work, I work in healthcare - so there are many women or seniors, I'm shy..... blah blah blah. My ideal way of meeting "the one" would be in an environment where you are not initially assessing the other single potential - cause in that case - both parties involved have high standards that they use to judge the other only on face value, everyone has their guard up, and sometimes either try to be someone they are not or only put their best foot forward only for that one time (sorta like a job interview - everyone is at their best behavior). Its when you get to know another person in a normal setting and not meaning to "assess the potential mate" then you get to see the real them, no prey or being preyed upon situation. Well thats my ideal anyhow.....

So I was thinking, maybe instead of trying out these "singles events" - Which so far I have learned to ---- despise!!!!!----maybe I should try to focus on expanding my circle - though that takes alot of work on my part. I went to a 'life coach' before (apparently the thing now a days)and she asked me about that aspect of my life and she said to me "So what are you doing to meet guys or other people?" I did not have an answer. She said "well I notice you are career oriented, you have to treat that other aspect of your life as if it is a career , you have to work at it just as hard" Who ever thought that finding your life mate would be this difficult?! I always thought that it should happen naturally, you know, somewhere along my journey of life the man of my dreams will be somehow be embedded in there and I will realize this when the time is right. I did not like the idea of having to actively search for him like a needle in a haystack. So then I was thinking, that I should have to do these singles things cause then, at least, I would have a right to bitch about being single ;p since I was at least trying. But now I am realizing that maybe the life coach was right - but she did not necessarily mean changing who I was and doing all the singles event things that I hate so much..... she just meant to actively work on your social life - meeting people how I prefer to and then at least I will have more chances of bumping into "the one". And not doing things only to have the sole purpose of meeting 'the one' but to do things because I like to and I enjoy them.

Anyhow - where was I before I got side tracked? Ah yes, the New Years singles party. VERy disorganized - most of the night my gfs and I were either waiting in line for the coat check (you think that they planned for 350 ppl they would have enough hangers for coat check) or then after that we spent most of the time in line again for a ticket- to go to yet another line that had the drinks!!!!! There were hardly any seats and no h'orderves - well, a friend of mine actually had to wrestle a server to get one spring roll! We ended up going to the restaurant beside the venue to get our drinks. So we spent 60$ to line up all night and listen to 80s music with seniors - ok ok not seniors, but men who where a good 20 yrs older than us! At one point another friend of mine said "thats it! I am staying single for ever!" The night played out just like any other night club ( see previous post) except though, they said an age range of late 20s to late 40s it should have said 50-ish and up (uh hello dad you there? ick!)
I am not only ranting about this age thing due to this one night... I have yet to tell about my adventures in Speed Dating too a while back ..... they should have called it Speed-Date-Your-Daddy or something. I digress....

I could go on about some men not being gentlemen anymore - as in bumping into you as they pass and not saying sorry or dancing so that they back into you so that I have to push back then all of a sudden there is this huge club brawl or something....ahem... not that that happened...or something like that , or something...ya (mental note must talk about this in the future too ;) ) or men introducing themselves by shaking your hand then wanting to kiss it - ick ! (Seriously, not impressive from a total stranger - there is a thing called - personal space - and that is definately an intrusion).....yes I could go on but I will leave it at that.... suffice to say I just dont like these so called singles events.....or maybe its just the singles events in T.O?

Ah we did try to keep an open mind... really we did!!! But the odds were stacked against us.... literally......

I have come to the conclusion that all singles event things are like this and I would - really would - for my new years resolution - like to stay away from things like this!

I just need more ideas in expanding my circle.....
sigh.

Despite all this mumbo jumbo ideal crap that I prolly wont follow after today (hehe) I just want to say: Hope this year will be extra wonderful for everyone with lots of happiness and Good Health! Happy New Year!