New Years! to be or not to be ... single?!

Ah my friends and I never learn hehe.
We went to a singles party last night for New Years.
We thought : hey it should be better than the bars or night clubs with the smoochie couples, and at least we will be surrounded by people just like us - single.

RIIIIIght!
Honestly, I am coming to believe that there are alot of sick ppl out there that prey on singles. They hold events or create dating sites, claiming to have the skill to match you perfectly to your significant other. I realize now that they are just as lost as the average single person in finding the right one...... but in their case - they make $$$ off of us. Gasp! How insensitve! Playing with ppls emotions like that!
When it comes down to it, its up to the single person themselves to find their significant other... in todays society we are too busy to do this and would rather have some other kind of element do the work for us, and we pay them to do this. GAH! I realize I got suckered into this too!

Maybe the reason there are so many singles out there is that we isolate ourselves in todays society. Heck, we dont even talk to our next door neighbours! And that is Normal! Given that the population is growing, there are still so many lonely people out there. I think in my case I am single because I dont get much exposure.... no no - Im not about to flash anyone out there.... but exposure to other people in general, not only singles but people who are not single who may know someone that is..... etc etc. I have all the excuses : too busy at work, I work in healthcare - so there are many women or seniors, I'm shy..... blah blah blah. My ideal way of meeting "the one" would be in an environment where you are not initially assessing the other single potential - cause in that case - both parties involved have high standards that they use to judge the other only on face value, everyone has their guard up, and sometimes either try to be someone they are not or only put their best foot forward only for that one time (sorta like a job interview - everyone is at their best behavior). Its when you get to know another person in a normal setting and not meaning to "assess the potential mate" then you get to see the real them, no prey or being preyed upon situation. Well thats my ideal anyhow.....

So I was thinking, maybe instead of trying out these "singles events" - Which so far I have learned to ---- despise!!!!!----maybe I should try to focus on expanding my circle - though that takes alot of work on my part. I went to a 'life coach' before (apparently the thing now a days)and she asked me about that aspect of my life and she said to me "So what are you doing to meet guys or other people?" I did not have an answer. She said "well I notice you are career oriented, you have to treat that other aspect of your life as if it is a career , you have to work at it just as hard" Who ever thought that finding your life mate would be this difficult?! I always thought that it should happen naturally, you know, somewhere along my journey of life the man of my dreams will be somehow be embedded in there and I will realize this when the time is right. I did not like the idea of having to actively search for him like a needle in a haystack. So then I was thinking, that I should have to do these singles things cause then, at least, I would have a right to bitch about being single ;p since I was at least trying. But now I am realizing that maybe the life coach was right - but she did not necessarily mean changing who I was and doing all the singles event things that I hate so much..... she just meant to actively work on your social life - meeting people how I prefer to and then at least I will have more chances of bumping into "the one". And not doing things only to have the sole purpose of meeting 'the one' but to do things because I like to and I enjoy them.

Anyhow - where was I before I got side tracked? Ah yes, the New Years singles party. VERy disorganized - most of the night my gfs and I were either waiting in line for the coat check (you think that they planned for 350 ppl they would have enough hangers for coat check) or then after that we spent most of the time in line again for a ticket- to go to yet another line that had the drinks!!!!! There were hardly any seats and no h'orderves - well, a friend of mine actually had to wrestle a server to get one spring roll! We ended up going to the restaurant beside the venue to get our drinks. So we spent 60$ to line up all night and listen to 80s music with seniors - ok ok not seniors, but men who where a good 20 yrs older than us! At one point another friend of mine said "thats it! I am staying single for ever!" The night played out just like any other night club ( see previous post) except though, they said an age range of late 20s to late 40s it should have said 50-ish and up (uh hello dad you there? ick!)
I am not only ranting about this age thing due to this one night... I have yet to tell about my adventures in Speed Dating too a while back ..... they should have called it Speed-Date-Your-Daddy or something. I digress....

I could go on about some men not being gentlemen anymore - as in bumping into you as they pass and not saying sorry or dancing so that they back into you so that I have to push back then all of a sudden there is this huge club brawl or something....ahem... not that that happened...or something like that , or something...ya (mental note must talk about this in the future too ;) ) or men introducing themselves by shaking your hand then wanting to kiss it - ick ! (Seriously, not impressive from a total stranger - there is a thing called - personal space - and that is definately an intrusion).....yes I could go on but I will leave it at that.... suffice to say I just dont like these so called singles events.....or maybe its just the singles events in T.O?

Ah we did try to keep an open mind... really we did!!! But the odds were stacked against us.... literally......

I have come to the conclusion that all singles event things are like this and I would - really would - for my new years resolution - like to stay away from things like this!

I just need more ideas in expanding my circle.....
sigh.

Despite all this mumbo jumbo ideal crap that I prolly wont follow after today (hehe) I just want to say: Hope this year will be extra wonderful for everyone with lots of happiness and Good Health! Happy New Year!