Set - Ups

This can be a great way of meeting potiential significant others.
But they can also get hairy.

When?

When the one that is setting you up with the guy is actually interested in the guy herself - but for some other reason she cannot be with that guy (ie. she is dating his friend, she is married, its her ex and she is still in love with him, or simply she is just interested in him way too much)

When it is the brother of a good friend of yours

When the one who is setting you up is single as well and the guy is actually interested in her but he is one of her .....'castaways'

When your parents 'found someone reeeeeeaaaaalllly nice' for you.

When your grandma 'found someone reeeeeeaaaalllly nice' for you.

When your parents over bearing friends say they 'have a reeeeaaaally nice son' that you may be interested in.



When ...............


When ...... your patients try to set you up!

I was just in the process of re-booking my clinic patients into my 'new temporary' clinic, when a patient called me.....I spoke about her before. I'm pretty comfortable when talking to her and she knows I am single - though, I really dont like to/ and dont disclose much about myself to her. She knows my nationality and she said she was in the pharmacy today and a very nice man ..... who is of the same nationality of me .... was veeeerrry helpful. (Seriously, why do ppl always assume you will like someone just because you are the same nationality? Maybe thats another post) She said that when she dealt with him, she was reminded of me because of his helpful nature. (really, I'm only helpful at work hehe) So she said to him "if you dont mind me asking..... are you married?.....no? Well I know the perfect gal for you.... she used to work in the area.....blah blah blah".
She told me - you cannot let this opportunity pass! Life is too short.
Sheesh! ok ok in my last post about her she was inspiring, yes she is right that I shouldnt let opportunities pass..... but really? A guy practically off the street? A guy stocking shelves? In the area I used to have my clinic?!!! And my same nationality??!
(ok ok only my close friends who know me will get where I am going with this)
First thing I asked her was - "are you sure he is not gay?" Poor guy - imagine that - some old lady off the street trying to set you up with a gal when all you wanted was another guy? Luckily since she has alot of gay friends in the area, I tend to trust her gay-dar. To make her happy, I will go there next time and buy some clinic supplies... and do as she tells me to, "check him out!". OH the things I do for my patients!
I had a good laugh with my patient today about this.
Although I am curious what she thinks is a good match for me.
I should stop here.
Only to say I have my doubts.

Last time a patient wanted to set me up I didnt even realize what was happening because of his thick accent. I was just being agreeable to everything he said until he said:
"Joo Marry?"
"Er uuuhh Oh no Im not married."
"Joo wana marry?"
"Uh ya sure one day"
"Ia knoa man, a goo man"
Yikes!
Thank goodness he forgot all about it after Christmas.

Whats in a name?

(double post)
What is it inside us that wants to be the "one and only"?
An innate selfishness I presume.
Whether it be the best friend, the best daughter, the best child the best gf or best bf
Its weird.
We want to be everyones "one and only"
Which, by my calculations is simply impossible!
And if we find out we are not
then we cannot help but to feel a tinge of jealousy.
Even if it is jealousy for no reason!

Or maybe its just me.

OR - yes, OR - maybe I would at least like to be called by my own name!! FFS!
Not the name of some other chick you are talking to !
Sheesh! get it straight!

(rant of the day)

I said I wouldnt

talk more about Eharmony.
But I just had to say this
(ya ya I'm still on it with no luck - sheesh - I am coming very close to closing this thing soon)
I am emailing this guy on there right now and he said in his last email:

"I just was on E-har looking at our email history and I noticed your pictures are posted. I hope you arent offended when I say that you are very attractive... "

Ahem..... ok other than the fact I am tooting my own horn with this post .... hehe....

2 things to note:
1) I found it interesting that he would think that I would be offended? Can you imagine? "You think I'm what??!! Why you Bastard! How dare you think such awwwful and disgusting vile things!!!" hehe
2) And what is more interesting is that - my response would naturally be to make excuses for his compliment! Something like:
"Oh well thanks but those are only the good pictures - I do have some uglier ones though so dont think I look like that always!" (no, I did not say this btw)
or
"yes those were taken on my 'good days' - you really dont want to see me on my 'bad days' - but maybe then you would get a better perspective on how I really look like" (and no, I didnt say this either)
or any other "Thanks, BUT......" answers.

I have no idea why is it I cannot take a compliment for what it is?
I'm sure it has something to do with self confidence. Or am I unconciously 'fishing' for more compliments? Or maybe it is because Im just sooooo wonderfully and incredibly humble - yes yes this must be it ! (stop laughing!)

What? What did you say???

Gah! Yes ,clubs are soo not for me! That is why I havent been to one in a long while.
Im typing deaf right now. Thank goodness this is not a voice blog or I would be screaming this post!
Went to a club tonight. Ya wierd - a Wednesday night.
Good times though.
Why?
Men. And lots of them! Big burly men too -firefighter type hehe.
Eye candy always helps.
Its always sad to go to a club or bar or lounge or even singles event and be bombarded by - women. There is just too many of us! Just ask all my gfs!
So for once in a long long while I have actually gone to a club packed full of men! So - even though I dont really like clubs and I sacraficed one of my five senses it was somewhat worth the treck out tonight.
I mean - I know full well this is not a place to meet a good guy. But it was none the less a good place to just have fun. And maybe practicing that whole singles game as well.
Its funny to see how ppl interact with others - people watch.
Oh and, for the likes of me, I have NO idea why some men find that grinding up against a gal in a club is a turn on? And why do they persist when you make it known that you dont want to? Or those ones that stare.... no I mean GLARE at you as if they are Hoodini trying to put you under their trance - eyes Bugging out of their head? Ick - talk about heebie jeebies! Maybe it is simply easier to be so creepy than to actually speak? Really, no grinding (perverts!) and if you are shy and you like a gal - glance, dont glare - do a double take and make sure she sees, and... smile.... if she does the same then your in the game. My gfs and I talk about being aware of our "piss-off jerk" look or our "F-off face" - we have to look more approachable - and I think we are somewhat for the most part - but with those guys that ruin it for the rest of them (as mentioned above) ya wonder why we have those faces?
Ah practice.

And one thing is - why does it have to be sooo incredibly LOUD? Am I just getting old or the decibles getting higher? I think in this particular place the music was just louder than normal! If ppl are supposed to mingle then whats the point if you cant hear a thing they say? I went to the washroom and the gals were talking and all I could make out was "muar muar muar la la la muuuuar mmmuuuarr la la la " Ya - I must be getting older and deaf.

Oh note: When my senior patients are hard of hearing, the proper way to talk to them is not LOUDER - but in a LOWER tone of voice. If ever you are in one of these situations or if you see me on the street - this is how to talk to me hehe.

Anyhow - I just needed to post the fact that the ratio of men to women was great tonight - very rare indeed. Hurrah - it was not a female fest!
Really - single men out there - there are more women out there for ya - so stop hiding!!!
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My mother, who was watching Dr. Phil the other day, said to me this past week , "you know, they say there are more single women now a days"
I looked at her and said "UH. Yeah, I could have told them that!!? - Just take a look at Stats. Canada - there are more women in the world than men, period - unless you are in Alberta or Whistler B.C, probably cause of the harsh weather and Oil Riggs."
She then said I should find an Oil Rigg man ........ Hummmmmm thats a thought..... ;)

Busy busy

wish I was getin busy instead of just being busy with work hehe...

Odd Thought:

Can we help who we fall in.......... attraction with?
How much of that decision is in our hands or just ingrained in us?
And if we can help it and control it..... can we just turn it off as fast as we turned it on?
Ya know.... like a light switch.




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