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Odd Thought:
Can we help who we fall in.......... attraction with?
How much of that decision is in our hands or just ingrained in us?
And if we can help it and control it..... can we just turn it off as fast as we turned it on?
Ya know.... like a light switch.
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13 Comments:
Good question...
I think there is a certain level of control in attraction. There is a level at which we do make a decision about the person to whom we feel attracted. It obviously begins with some amount of the physical attraction. But after that, there has to be something more to the person to make us willing to stay in a relationship, or seek a deeper relationship, with that person. And that is clearly a decision that we get to make on our own.
I definitely isn't as easy as flipping a switch. Although it might be nice if it were that easy when it came to getting over somebody who just dumped you. But this is almost raw emotion that we're dealing with. And raw emotion seldom allows itself to be thwarted be logic or reason. Go figure!
Yes yes no logic or reason sometimes! Grrr hate that. I was thinking along the lines of being attracted to someone you shouldnt be attracted to yet you find that you are.. like if the person is married or lives far far away like alberta or something like that or maybe someone that is not nice or moody or wrong for ya - it would be great if it was like a light switch.
Because it's the forbidden fruit that is thought to be the sweetest. We want what we can't have because it intrigues us, mystifies us, seduces us with it's subtle elusiveness. It's like the whole "why do good girls lke bad boys?" conundrum. Perhaps there's a deeper psychological element at work in this dilema. But I'm not qualified to address it.
maybe.
but I dont mean it in the sense we are attracted to something just because we know we cannot have it. Its like - when you just find yourself attracted to someone when you get to know them, because of personality - then later realize that it should be switched off. I duno if Im making sense. Or excuses. I definately am not qualified to address the 'deeper psychological element at work' - so I will stop here - my head hurts :P
u know if u place the switch in the middle the light is off.... and sometimes the lights being off is a good thing, either in a relationship or just in general. mushrooms grow in the dark... emotions grow in the dark... both good and bad. i know this isnt directed towards anyone but a switch is a handy thing. flick of the switch by ac/dc... great f'in song !!!! anyways...after the light switch is back on a newer person with deeper emotions stands in front of a mirror and issues have a more clear out look
well ori - (can I call you ori? lol)
yes switching it off can be a good thing - if only it were that easy sometimes
Yes, but if you spend too much time in the dark, eventually you'll bump into something and hurt yourself...
I'm not sure I'm following you on the attraction thing. You feel an attraction for whatever reason and then realize it's not right (that it should be switched off) be-cause... ?
Maybe you are just making excuses. Unless you have something more concrete. I can understand not wanting to have a long distance relationship or getting involved with a married person or a not nice person (as you mention previously). But this doesn't seem to be where you're heading with this. What is it that makes a person "wrong for ya" while still being attractive? I'm curious about this - and all of a sudden I have a headache.
My friends always warn me that I should go slow but I can't. It's like a switch which would turn on when I start falling for someone without any knowledge of his intentions at all. I wish I could keep the switch off or at least gradually have it on until I get to know this person more.
M+ : Oh sorry for passing on my headache! Its ok to drop the topic if your head hurts!! lol
I'll give you a HYPOTHETICAL situation.
girl talks to guy in far off land.
girl knows that they cannot ever be since guy lives far and will not move and knows she will not move.
BUT she continues to talk to guy.
They become good friends.
And hence the attraction.
The more she talks to guy - the more she is attracted - vice versa. But still she knows it can never be. Ah tragedy! (oh that rhymes! anyways...) So what is gal to do? Stop talking to guy?? Not so easy to turn off is it? See - like that situation. No real reason to dislike or stop being attracted to the person - except distance.
OK, I get it. It reminds me of situation I was in once... a very long time ago. Wow! That stirs up some old feelings and memeories.
Well M+ ? How did you solve that situation? Does the switch eventually turn off or did you turn it off?
A little of both. It took a little effort but eventually logic prevailed and I realized that the situation wasn't going to change. So I moved on.
kinda like this song"huni you dont have to leave the light on for me,as long as you leave a candle in the window"hmmm ..wait i agree flick of the switch is a great song lol am sorry i like it when you smile inside and outside:)
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