Making men lazy.....

Ok just some observations of this past week.

My gfs and I went to a Jazz Bar past Saturday night. I liked it. At least it was something different. We would have liked it more if we had a seat (though many were standing watching the band anyways) and if the lead singer would have been more vocal than instrumental. (I'm not a jazz connoisseur).
Anyhoo, as we were standing we noticed a group of people just a little younger than us in front of us. There was about 4-5 guys and 2 girls. The girls were practically all over these two guys (oh and btw they did not seem exclusive to their respective dates - share and share alike I guess. Whatever). The girls were pawing the guys. Leaning right into the guys face to talk, touching here and there flirting big time. And the guys' response? Um.... interested ....BUT in an INDIFFERENT way. They hardly did anything. Well lets say they hardly had to do anything anyways. It was more the girls crawling all over the guys than the other way around.
Now mind you, guys pawing the girls is not that great in itself but this was obvious to me and my friends that this was a one-sided deal.
This adds to my theory. Some Men are becoming lazy in the sense they dont feel they have to approach a gal anymore, they dont have to try to get to know them, they dont have to work at this whole mating game at all. They sit there, buy drinks for them selves and gawk at girls in hopes that the girls will approach them. (mind you I know this is not the case with all guys, but this type of man is popping up everywhere now a days). Men dont need to be chivalrous anymore. They dont even have to be gentlemen. Sad to say, its gals like the above that are partly to blame. They are easy. So why should men work? It was certainly obvious that night.

Then another thing along the same lines, this week in the staff lunch room, I was skimming through Maclean's Magazine. There was some article about some woman named Maureen Dowd, Pulitzer Prize -winning New York Times colomnist and author of a new book, Are men neccessary?
Question was: "The basic assertion of this book seems to be that the women's movement has not made many gains over the past 30 yrs...." She goes on to explain: "Actually no. Women are in better shape in many ways. Economically the feminist movement did alot of good. But in terms of culture, they made the mistake of thinking that women could suceed by aping men...."
Yada Yada Yada.....
So in this sense I think that she is partly right. All this Women's Lib Movement was good for many injustices that were going on and I appreciate what they did for us. But in another sense I think that the movement went too far. The whole mating game was based on the differences of men and women generally. As much as some women try to be agressive - like men, in the end most of us wanted to be treated..... as a woman. Thats were the balance of relationships come in. Now all these differences are being mish mashed together and added to the fact that its the thing now for women to BE the aggressor: "girl power", "gals gone wild" etc etc...some men have nothing to do but sit back and be passive. The present womans lib is making it so that we are sooooooo independent from men that we dont need them at all. When really NOT everything is about competition. It should be about equal opportunity not: I want to be a man so I dont have to be with one.

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AH well, I think Im opening a can of worms with this. There are many issues touched on here and I speak only in GENERAL terms. I know this is not the case with everything. But I will leave this with one thought:

I remember in grade 9 my english Teacher, lets call him Mr.M. Mr. M was 24 at the time. Kinda cute. We came into class one day and he said to us all, "Can I ask you guys something?" We looked at him. "I was on a date with a gal the other day and I held the car door open for her. She got mad. She took the door handle and slammed the door of the car shut and then re-opened it up for herself, then got in the car. Now, did I do anything wrong here? I really dont know what I did wrong."
I felt sorry for the man. He didnt do anything wrong. He was not saying "listen lady I know you are weak and vulnerable so I have to open this door for you because you cant do anything for yourself." He was simply saying "I am treating you with respect. The respect you deserve." (or in her case she did not deserve).