Is it called forgiving or stupidity?

This morning was a frustrating morning
Grrr traffic.
Seems when I get pissed off about one thing then I get pissed off at everything else.
After cursing at the stupid drivers I started to think Oh well this patient is going to be waiting for me and that patient is going to be angry. Grrrr.
Sometimes being in healthcare, maybe just here, the ppl are just soo damanding! Everything is their right! So basically they have the "right" to treat you like shit becuase they pay their taxes when you are doing your best to help them... I mean, if I was not here to help them then I wouldnt have chose this profession! Gez! Respect is both ways ppl!

Anyhow that aint my beef this morning believe it or not. It was just an extension of my actual beef.

Why do gals go for assholes? Or, for that matter give assholes second, third, and 100th chances?
Some gals just think "oh he is nice now" NOw?! If he wasnt before then Im sure as hell believe he cant just get rid of that part of his inbred personality just because he says so. WE (me included) are just tooo giving ? accepting? forgiving? naieve? Why do we have hope that they will change? And why to we call them back? Is it because we have not much respect for ourselves to begin with? Is is because we think that this treatment is all we deserve? Im not sure. Seriously, If the guy is an ass to you once, fine. forgive. But a second time ? No MORE! thats it, just one chance. If he is an ass again after that then we know he was born an asshole! And for this matter.... we have to take into account how he treats others....
None of this...Oh he was mean to you? We'll he is not like that to me? GRRRR! Just because he is nice to you (for that moment) but a bastard to your friends, to the waiter, to his colleage, to other women, to ppl on the street....lets face it....he is a bastard to begin with. We all have our false masks we put on to different ppl. We just have to see which of those masks he is putting on. If he is mostly an ass then his mask is when he is nice. Vice versa.
I wrote once about how you truely know how someone feels about you, if they respect you, is how they treat you when you are down and just need a friend. Maybe it is easier to say this from a far looking in on what is happening to other ppl. And if it were to happen to me I would also be so blind. But some gals dont take a close look to how the guy really treats you. They focus on the good times, but not the fact that they are the ones always calling the guy, or the fact that you have to pick him up all the time or the fact that he blames you for his behaviour or the fact that he is not willing to give back and just sits there and lets you do everything, or that he doesnt respect who you are and is selfish in his needs only?! That is not a balanced relationship! Sometimes I wonder how some ppl can marry a man to only find out a few months later that he is verbally abusive or worse, physically abusive? I think its the fact that we have to be such detectives and highly intuitive because some ppl hide really well behind their good masks.
When someone disses me, I can forgive. But I dont see how some ppl can totally forget? I forgive but in the back of my mind I have my guard up for the next time they diss you. Just waiting for it to happen again.
This is how ppl get burned time and time again. If the fire burns your hand once .... dont put your freakin face in there!
This post alludes to something similar. I really dont know why we put up with such assholes! Why ?! Why ?! Why do we do it?!

Ahhhh so have I said all I wanted to say? So need to vent about this! Hopefully it is out of my system..... for now. So now I can carry on with my day. Phew!