Intro 101

I tend to write things down to let things out the moment they happen. Thus at work unfortunately I use the pc there. In the NOTES section of my email account I felt the need to write this way back in January of 2004: (cut and paste)

So I'm wondering if I should write a book.
Not sure what the title should be yet.
Maybe:"I Don't Want Your Garbage." "I Am Not Broken"It would be about the tribulations of being single. How others should not treat you. And the experiences of a single gal that only she could notice. Sometimes, well-meaning (?) friends or accquaintances either say things, treat you, or put you in situations that make sense to them, but to a single person they don't. Its almost common sense from a single person for a non-single person. Kinda Bridget Jones-y but different somehow. For those Married or coupled people who find that they are offending their single friend and don't know why, or for those that even just have a single friend - that they actually care about.
Topics can include:
1) do not treat us like we are broken and need to be fixed, also we do not want your pitty.
2) helping us find potentials: we don't want your exs, your rejects, your loser odd/ scary cousin 20 yrs older than us who has never stepped outside of his house in 15 years; or the oddball in your office who is strangely quiet, stutters and can't even look you in the eye, or any guy with the description ".....BUT, he is really nice.", also we don't want the guy who is secretly longing for you or vice versa. we are not desperate!
3) how the wife or the girlfriend should treat us - not as a threat! we do not want your man, and if he thinks we are attractive it is not our fault, we are not all potential "other woman"s, we do not want a man that has a high infidelity rate or one at all for that matter anyways. we are not competion anymore he already is with you.
4)Questions not to ask: whats wrong with you? don't you want to be happy? Why are you single? do you even want a boyfriend? do u have a boyfriend YET? are you dating anyone? (likens to #1) or are you married??!!?? (where'd that come from?)
5)Statements we do not want to hear: well you had your chance. all the good men are taken already. you are just too picky. at your rate you'll be an old maid. but he likes you and thats all that matters. beggars can't be choosers.
6)Questions you can ask: so whats going on in your life (not one particular aspect - puts equal importance to all parts of your life), Are you with someone (more gentler term than those in #5), what have you accomplished in life?, career?
7)Statements we want to hear: you've done very well for yourself, some guy would be so lucky to be with you, no wonder you are single there is no guy good enough for you! (whoo hoo - is that askin too much?)